Friday, February 29, 2008

I am Blessed...

I have been delaying writing about this post since valentine's day hence today I was determined not to start working before I write this! Kinda punishment teacher gives to her lazy student:)

Anyway, today I want to share my feelings for somebody I care a lot for, yes you guessed it right, my betterhalf! Before getting married, I always thought marriage as a social arrangement where two completely unknown persons are forced to stay, get acquainted and then finally love and care for each other. This gamble sometimes goes through and sometimes it still remains as a gap between these 2 persons which can never be bridged! My this belief started getting thinner after getting married and now it is completely vanished and the credit goes to other half..

He has accepted me the way I am, he admires and respects the way I lead my life, the way I make decisions about both of us, the way I think. In our Indian culture generally X-X chromosomes are supposed to compromise, but in my case it went little differently. I am not saying that it has been perfect for me or I did not have to compromise at all, but the way we handled it and the way my husband helped me tackle the situation, I do not regret, what I have missed out. He has always been calm and cool towards my anger and frustration, always sympathetic and concerned and willing to understand and analyze the situation from my point of view.

The result is, I have started believing in marriage with all my reverence and faith. It is not arrangement but luck and blessings which not many of us can have. I want to do my best to make him happy and always want to see him as winner.

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Changing relationships...

Hey
What a good start of day! Clear sky and sunny day, on top of it healthy breakfast and yoga too..:)
Hence could not resist myself from writing this blog about my yesterday evening

It has been more than 2.5 year knowing my husband and his (our) family, but as just two of us have settled down in US, it has become difficult to be in touch with our 'huge' family other than immediate family members and his siblings. Friends often visit to our home, but in such cases, I do not have to be formal.

And yesterday I got a call about visit of few of our relatives from my in-laws side. Staying 10 hours outside home for job and then cooking for 5 of us on weekday sounded little scary to me initially. But my aunt convinced me to have dinner outside at Indian restaurant, I was hesitant because they come once in-a-while, so I decided to prepare nice snacks (Sort of an appetizer before main course at restaurant) and sweet dist too. But I guess it was their destiny to have food prepared by me and around 7:00 PM I came to know that we are not going out and I will be cooking only!!

She assured me repetitively not to worry and she would help me out once she is in. And trust me, she kept her word. She also had a long day (After job she was directly coming to my place), but she helped me in whatever manner she could starting from cooking to cleaning. I did not expect this from elderly aunt and that too somebody from in-laws side.

Guests visit you now and then is common in India, but not in US. (This is common scenario at my both homes).I was really grateful to her as she made my job easier.When I thanked her, she told me in US all are equal and more like friends. So never think about getting into such formalities. How wonderful!

I really doubt, whether my mother-in-law or even my own mom would have given me same sort of freedom or flexibility. People back in India always talk about poor relationships and selfish nature of people here in US. For those only, I want to say, when they talk bad, they should not forget to mention good side as well.
I have seen here relationships are changing the form and not the value!! And such values depend on your own moral and thinking, and not the place!!